The only blond girl in Kindergarten

Living in Sri Lanka with two kids can be pretty standard, unless one of your kids is blond. Our daughter has very light brown hair, not golden blond hair but light enough for it to be noticeable and different. Our daughter has the lightest hair in the school and some kids simply cannot hold back from touching it every single day. She doesn’t like it all the time and gets quite upset if it happens too often.

All families with blond children who travel to countries where the local hair color is dark, know what it’s like to have people touching their kids hair and skin while they visit markets or walk around town. Local people are known to stop in their tracks to touch their hair, their skin and smile at them like they are mini gods.

Some parents are ok with it and some aren’t. When the kids are really small they have no say and usually people don’t even ask before taking a photo or touching them. When kids get older they start complaining about it and hiding behind their parents. My kids don’t like getting their photo taken anymore, I also ask them if they are ok with it now when someone asks.

The Tragedy of the African Western People

Curly Hair is also an attention grabber

Blond hair is obviously different to dark hair, and if it comes along with fair skin the odds aren’t in your favor around people with cameras and curiosity. Before starting primary school, our son used to have long curly hair and you wouldn’t believe the attention he got everywhere we went. He has taken hundred of selfies with perfect strangers, always making funny faces at the camera. He is 6 and a half and doesn’t like doing it anymore.

Everywhere we go, specially here in Sri Lanka, people stare. It turns out that Sri Lankas like to stare, no matter what your hair looks like. Our son constantly complains about people looking at him and becomes quite upset when someone looks at him for long periods of time.

He is learning to not pay attention to the starers, and now that his hair is short from school, the staring and the photos are less for him. For my daughter on the other hand, people keep taking photos in the park sneakily thinking that I can’t see them. Some people ask for a photo and since now I ask her if she’s ok with it, they usually do not get a photo after all.

The Throngs of Chinese Tourists and their cameras

When we lived in Phuket three years ago, our daughter was tiny and very blond from the sun. The island of Phuket is quite populated with buses full of Chinese tourists. Every time we went a place where these groups would be, our daughter was a focal point of their day.

The below photo was from the most populated photoshoot that ever happened. She was playing in the sand like any other kid, there were plenty. Since she was the blond one, she got all the attention.
chinese tourists photos



  1. That’s quite stressing for your little one. I just find it funny how people react out from amusement but lo, somehow here in our country, if you are different, we just simply act like you guys are one of us. Well, people just have different views, I guess. Anyhow, I just hope that those people who can’t contain their excitement seeing kids with blonde hair should somehow ask permission before they touch one’s hair or snap a pic of them.

  2. This is an eye-opener for me who would probably be one of the many who’ll stare with admiration to a beautiful looking blonde little girl. That’s how I would do without thinking it can be annoying to the child and to her parents, too. It must have been hard to stand out in a crowd just because your hair and skin has different color. I hope your kids will overcome the staring and photo ops and blend in just fine. And cheers to your fine looking kids! Local people just want to be friendly and admire expat kids usually.

  3. Oh! I can relate even if my daughter’s hair is just light brown. I guess the “staring” is an Asia thing. Wait til you come visit the Philippines and you will experience staring on a whole new level. I just take it with a grain of salt and a little bit of positivity when my daughter attracts attention from strangers. It’s a good thing that she is not the only girl with lighter hair in school because she has classmates who are “halfies” too.

  4. That is hard for me to imagine a blond person standing out so much! But of course in Sri Lanka it would be unusual. I am sorry it upsets your kids, though! It is shocking that people are so rude to take a child’s picture without asking!

  5. Awww. That can be stressful for kids too. I mean, I don’t like people touching my hair too when I was kid. It feels weird. You have a very pretty daughter, BTW.